SOLICITED ADVICE #2: How to move on?

Send your questions to askingsherry@gmail.com and I'll pick interesting ones to answer here:

Dear Sherry,

I love your newsletter and Twitter [I am also on IG]. In your newsletter today, I saw that you are open to questions from your community. I have two that I'd like to ask:

1. How do you not expose yourself to bad treatment? And a follow up about exposing yourself to bad treatment: how do you hold it and let it move out of your body once it has happened?

2. How can I create opportunities for people to leave? In other words, how do I break up quickly and often with people who are energetically or behaviorally not my people but are in my orbit?

Thank you for considering either of these questions and I truly enjoy your work.

Enjoy the weekend,

C.Y.

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First of all, thank you!! I love these questions and I’ll focus on #1 but I think my answer will satisfy both since they’re actually really similar. Let me tell you a story:

I was 20 when I went through my first breakup. Looking back, the wound-licking was an amazing waste of time. One night, I called my friend, and, with my nose connected to my screen via one long, skinny rope of snot, I told her about how I felt like I couldn’t move on. Her response changed my life (something in me clicked after that).